What I despise most is people who can't see their own failings. When something fucks up, all they can see is how the other party involved was at fault. How the other party didn't do enough, didn't keep up to their side of the bargain... never once taking a moment to introspect and consider that partly, the 'blame' is to be shared.

I may have walked away, but I walked away with my eyes wide open. I could see the good and the bad, and ultimately decided the bad far outweighed the good, and so I walked. I didn't have to shit on things to make it easier to leave. Things really weren't great for me. I didn't want to say too much, for fear of hurting you, but also because I knew how blind you are to your own failings and hence knew that it was pointless attempting to make you see the light.

All I can say is that every day since has made me even more convinced that my decision was right. It wasn't that I changed my mind, but that circumstances changed, and the entire relationship changed, for the worse. I thought it was just the circumstances forcing us to change, but now I see that the circumstances merely threw up a side of you I thoroughly dislike and despise.

I so want to shout at you. To tell you exactly why I walked away. But I won't, because unlike you, I actually walk the talk. So I'll grit my teeth and hold back everything that was bugging me all those months, and let you play the petulant victim.


Things like that make me think twice about how happy I am with SH. I really enjoy his company and we get along very well. He is a lovely person. But the last few years have taught me that we never really know a person until things get ugly.

My tuition students are getting a laptop for Christmas, but they have to shop for it themselves. Unfortunately, there is no one to help them -- so I offered! But I know nothing about laptops... So please help!

Their parents did not give them a budget, but they're not the type that would splurge unnecessarily. They basically want something that lets them surf the internet, listen to music, watch movies, do a bit of work (word processing and PPT). Very basic. But what should they get?

They're looking at Toshiba, HP and IBM. I have no idea what brands are 'good' though! (Good in quotation marks since I have no idea what makes a laptop good. I just go for durability.)  What would you guys recommend for kids like them? Where would you recommend we go shopping? We're probably going to Funan on Saturday...

If you have any advice, especially information on good deals, please let me know!

S-Man's post was hilarious. If can find this type of job, please let me know. If I made $4m a year, I wouldn't even need to be corrupt! But maybe that just proves how I'm not ambitious enough...

And this takes the cake as the best forum letter EVER.
Stop diseases, ban parties like ZoukOut
RAUNCHY incidents were reported during the ZoukOut party on Sentosa on Dec 8.

It is shocking that the authorities allowed the party, coming just after we marked World Aids Day.

In March 2005, Senior Minister of State for Health Balaji Sadasivan stated his hypothesis that the allegedly gay Nation parties on Sentosa caused a spike in Aids cases. These parties stopped after his comment.

Why are parties such as ZoukOut still allowed, given that there is now evidence that sexual activities took place during these events?

In addition to spreading diseases, there could be underaged patrons engaging in undesirable activities with sad consequences.

All such parties should be banned.

Kwok Chee Chiu

Raunchy acts! Sexual activities! Oh my god! Ban ban ban!


Boy oh boy, did the ST brighten up my day. What would I do without the ST?


Clearly, my sense of humor is warped.

On the shopping list:
- New bookshelves, 2m tall, 3m wide. Lots of bookshelves!
- Chest of drawers.
- Shoe Cabinet.
- New bedside table.
- Full length mirror.
- Make up lighting.

The plan is to have the drawers and shoe cabinet and full-length mirror line the side of my room, and place my trinkets and makeup on top of the drawers and shoe cabinet.

I'm planning to check out Ikea and vHive for furniture, and perhaps IMM. I'm looking for affordable, simple furniture, that will not break down in a few years. I know, doesn't everyone? If you have suggestions for such furniture, please share!

I am very tempted to get this:
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Very cool! It's $129 SGD ($5 assembly fee). But am worried about the durability of the elastic. Plus I think I may need the counter top space from the shoe cabinet!

Love these dresses, very fashion-forward and definitely not what your average girl on Orchard Road will wear, but unfortunately, they're overpriced by my standards. FEP does spoil a girl! When you get awesome dresses that people stop to ask you where you got them from at $30+, anything more than $50 is over-priced.

Ditto for these dresses. Perfect for work -- chic but formal enough. But still too pricey!

And I found the cutest solution to my shoe storage problem -- cuteness!

Clearly, I've have been blogstalking to get over my shopping pangs. I love online shopping: you get the satisfaction of poring over options and making your selection, but without having to pay for anything. Click, click, click, everything's in my shopping basket, but I never check out. Helps that my wallet is always in another room -- more work to spend money = less money spent. I found a few pretty decent Singaporean fashion blogs!
- Vogueite: very bitchy!
- Soon Lee: they have a shop on Haji Lane, that I'm dying to check out. Girls, can we please go to Haji Lane sometime soon? Like when we finally have money again? :P
- Fashionation: Comes with their own list of Singaporean fashion blogs or websites!

This is so sad...

I am CRAZY about Chanel now. Love it! But hate the limited range at Taka (or so it seems). I refuse to believe that's all the bags they have! But I've been having trouble finding Chanel pr0n online. So please help girls! Where can I go for Chanel bags and accessories?!

Old, but interesting.

Can you tell I have lots of work due? :(

Singaporeans really need to read this book.

Book review below: